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The negative attitude of relatives and others to poker does not contribute to your emotional balance and confidence in the correctness of decision-making. We understand why this situation arises in society.
1. Causes of people's negative attitude to poker
Let's analyze the reasons why there is a negative attitude of others to your passion for poker and the desire to make money playing in one of the poker rooms.
- Insufficient material base to cover the basic needs of the family. If you have a family and children, then leaving for poker is viewed with disapproval due to the potential shortage of money.
- Hidden game: You don't tell anyone you play poker or ask those who know not to tell others. The brain perceives such signals as potentially dangerous, so your loved ones may relate to the hobby negatively.
- Emotional instability: Poker is a process that involves a variety of emotions. If you react violently to the surrounding things after the game, quarrel with everyone and break down because of a bad game, then others and loved ones are forced to look for an explanation for your behavior, blaming poker.
- Violation of the habitual way of life. You are practically absent in everyday life and at home. You are constantly on the computer, and at night you go into a personal way of life.
- Uncertainty. Today you are at the peak and tell everyone how wonderful everything is, and tomorrow you are overtaken by the downswing. You start to hesitate. People close to you and those around you can see it. Your condition (psychological, economic, etc.) is important to them, so they do not have an unequivocal opinion about poker.
2. How to change the opinion of others about poker
It is realistic to establish relationships with loved ones and reconsider their point of view regarding poker.
Here are some recommendations from Sofia's poker psychologist:
Start an open dialogue with your family.
You need to inform everyone about the choice of poker as the main source of income. Tell us why you made such a choice, how poker differs from casinos.
In order for loved ones to understand you, they must have a rough idea of what you do. And if you introduce them to some nuances and explain why you are interested in this, they will be able to understand you better.
Work with your self-esteem and the emotional baggage of acceptance.
You need to realize that your emotions are not you. If something goes wrong, it does not speak about your personality as a whole, but speaks about the situation that is happening here and now in the game. Start keeping a diary of emotions and experiences, where you will write down all your thoughts after the game, so as not to take them out on loved ones.
Set up your schedule.
Distribute your time wisely. Set aside time for family, friends, loved ones, and yourself.
Read more about this in the article: The wheel of balance or how to achieve stability in life and work.
Work with your fears.
What happens if your choice is never accepted? Is it worth it to keep hiding what you do? Write a mini essay on this topic, where you clearly highlight the moments that you are worried about. Perhaps by re-reading it in the future, you realize that some fears and anxieties do not have a strong impact on your reality.
Reviewing your financial strategy:
If your family needs money, this is your area of responsibility. What can you do about it? What are your options? You need to find answers to these questions or make a number of arrangements with loved ones for a certain period of time.
Poker also carries a social significance, which you can read more about in the articles of MTT coach Alexei Exan13.
You don't need to convince everyone around you of what poker is worth. It is important that you understand and accept your personal choices. And for greater efficiency, you can always come for advice from a professional poker psychologist. During the communication, many areas of your life will be disassembled. And you will get the long-awaited harmony!
