A fussy mind harms a meaningful game: how to pump psychological muscles

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Have you noticed how fast time is moving forward? 

The whole world seems to be in accelerated mode. Voice messages in chats are listened to at speed, a large number of things are done per day, haste and fuss permeate all the air around. Snacks on the run, short breaks for rest, fast typing on the phone, a race in personal achievements and affairs - and "long live fussiness!" And after a while such a race is a syndrome of tired adrenal glands.  

If we take the meaning of the word fussiness, it means haste, restlessness, excessive mobility and turmoil.

This raises the question: can fussiness improve the quality of your game? Your life? The answer is unequivocal - no. Describing a fussy mind, we can say that this is a mind that always develops something (thoughts, plans for the future, etc.), ponders, and does all this without stopping, being in constant motion.

1. What is the harm of a fussy mind for playing

1. Narrowing the field of mental activity - that is, your psyche, as it were, limits its horizons, and your thoughts are usually scrolled in identical or similar scenarios, without considering the problem more broadly, without distinguishing other possible solutions.
2. Your concentration of attention drops faster – fussiness at the beginning gives undoubted advantages such as high concentration and immersion in the problem, but the resource quickly runs out, and your attention becomes less and less in terms of volume, strength and concentration.
3. Excessive expectations – fussiness always changes views on reality, distorts the picture and does not allow to assess the problem adequately.
4. Quick and often rash decision-making – many players come with a complaint that they have become bored with playing, and when they analyze it, it turns out that they make decisions quickly and never take a time bank, which negatively affects the game.
5. Lack of grounding and contact with reality is a generalized state when the human brain sees a picture of reality not as it is. Because of this, derealization occurs, falling out of contact with oneself in the present and often with a sense of life in the future, which negatively affects the psyche and ultimately leads to the depletion of all resources and complete dissatisfaction with life here and now.

Is there anything we can do about it? Definitely Yes. But it will take time. Because your brain is trained to live in a bustle for a long time and you will not be able to break out of this trap immediately, you will still fuss and rush.

2. How to boost your psychological muscles

1. Understand that fussiness prevents you from living, feeling your life 100%. Time moves forward, and if nothing changes, your level of awareness will only decrease. Do you need this condition? I think not.  Without conscious play, there are no big victories that will be in your piggy bank in the long run!
2. I want to draw your attention to the fact that victories, of course, are possible in any psychological state, but awareness increases all your skills, and these victories will be much more pleasant and useful for your game and further development.
3. Write out all the spheres filled with fussiness, and try (to begin with) every week to take at least one of these spheres and live it at a calm pace. Do not listen to voice messages in accelerated mode, slowly chew food, notice new details while driving along the same route.
4. Ask yourself a direct question – WHERE IS MY HURRY ALL the time? Believe me, the answer to it will give you a lot of food for thought.
5. Practice your breathing, meditate, and learn self-regulation techniques. 

Look for them in the chat using the hashtag #self-regulation, and you can learn more about how they work in the article: Self-regulation is one of the psychological factors of your success in poker.

1. Engage self-discipline. Learning to stop is a skill, and any skill can be developed over time. Set yourself tasks during the session so as not to rush too much and not to make hasty decisions, fill the game with interest so that you do not get bored with the slowness of your opponents.
2. Try to admit to yourself honestly, can you slow down on your own? Remove this fussiness from your shoulders? If yes, then dare, everything is in your hands, start right now. If not, or you think that you will have difficulties, I invite you to my consultation.